12. forGIVEness


source: www.QuotesAboutLiving.com

    It has happened to all of us. Someone has done something to us that hurt terribly. Perhaps it is something we could never even consider doing to someone else. It sucks. It’s shitty. And sometimes we feel it is just simply unforgivable. But it’s so important that we learn about exactly what it means to forgive, and why we must do it in order to not limit ourselves from our highest potential. It is your responsibility to set yourself free. For those of you who are hurting I want to help you heal.


  Many of us think that forgiving someone means that we are putting ourselves above them. “I forgive them because what they did is below me. I am better than that.” But forgiving isn’t about blaming and judging others or about victimizing ourselves. It’s about empowering ourselves. It’s about not letting anyone take control over our well being, and it’s about regaining our happiness.  We forgive so that we may heal and grow.  It allows you and the other person to be free.


   It’s interesting but as s a psychic medium, I sometime have clients who are simply just harder to read. Some of my clients are really open and the information they are looking for vibrationally just flows to me. But sometimes it does not. Most of the time, the people that I have difficulty reading are having issues with forgiving. As an empath, I immediately feel the pain in my heart that the person regularly carries with them. And  then I realize that I literally have to pull the information rather than let it flow naturally. You see, sometimes we use the saying that  some people are “guarded”.  This saying is because when we block people off mentally and emotionally, we actually do it energetically as well. We create an energetic wall that blocks others energy from mingling with ours. We all have met that person that just immediately seems cold. This person probably doesn’t even realize they come off that way, and most likely they are hurting.


  When we have issues forgiving others we are sharing with the universe that ” someone owes us something.” Whether we are intentionally doing it or not, by not forgiving we are asking to live in debt. The universe does not judge. No matter what you ask, for you will receive it.  So be conscientious about your intentions. If you choose to be a victim, you are the only one responsible for limiting yourself.   It’s because you are responsible for taking control of your own happiness. 



   Sometimes the hardest person to forgive is ourselves. We can do things to hurt the ones we love. Sometimes we get caught up in gossip, find our self bullying, or doing things out of character. Other times we hurt ourselves. Whether its unhealthy habits, poor decisions, or what have you, forgiving ourselves can tend to be the hardest. Guilt and shame can be some of the most painful feelings to experience. Those emotions energetically shackle us from living the lives we desire. 


  My man, Dr. Michael Bernard Beckwith, discusses forgiveness in depth in his book, Life Visioning.  Here he has a technique that I have personally tried that is life changing. He suggests that before bed you center yourself and calm your thoughts. Focus on the pain you feel in your heart and cradle yourself. Imagine the pain floating away and say to yourself internally or aloud,


“I take responsibility for my actions and forgive myself for all that I have knowingly or unknowingly done to hurt myself and other individuals. I release myself from the bondage of unforgiveness. I am free, free in the freedom that has always been mine. I claim it now. Guilt, shame, and blame are now neutralized by the unconditional love, compassion, and forgiveness which saturate my awareness, my heart, my entire being. Right here and right now, I am cleansed of the toxin of unforgiveness. I begin afresh and give thanks for this realization.”




If it is another person that you wish to forgive, Dr. Beckwith suggests you do the same centering technique and then say the following:


“I forgive you (name or names), for knowingly or unknowingly hurting me. My forgiveness of you is total and complete. I am free and you are free. All is well between us.”

Ahhh I just love it!

   Life Visioning is an amazing book filled with life changing techniques and mindful contributions for expanding your awareness and activating your power to live at your highest potential.  If you are interested in a copy, you can find it here:



Also, as my future blogs will soon share, I am a true believer in Angels. I feel it must be shared that when needing to find forgiveness, Archangel Michael is a valuable resource. I mean Michael is pretty bad ass. In fact, he’s extremely bad ass.  Remember, he is the one who ,when asked by God, sent Lucifer into damnation. He can use the brilliant sword he carries to sever the energetic cords we have with others. Be sure to be mindful, respectful, and clear with your intention when speaking to St. Michael. Michael is blunt and a force to be reckon with. If you are humble and believe in accepting his help, he will answer you quickly. His presence will be known.


source: http://magnetico-joe.blogspot.ca/2011/02/top-5-books.html

So please, be kind to yourself. Know that we are all here on a spiritual learning journey. Everything happens for a reason. Free yourself and allow yourself to grow. Forgive.


source: Beckwith, Michael Bernard. Life visioning: a transformative process for activating your unique gifts and highest potential. Sounds True, 2013. 

Acknowledge It. Embrace It. See It Through.

-Cynthia Stant